Al-Anon is support groups all over the world that where people affected by alcoholism in one way or another meet to share experiences and help each other. The aim of these groups is to be recuperative and curative.
Al Anon was founded in 1951 and is an organization which provides support to the friends and family members of people who are addicted to alcohol. This organization was founded by Lois Wilson, who is also popular by the name of Lois W and Al Anon came into being 16 years after the formation of Alcoholics Anonymous [AA] by her husband. Lois W sort to help others suffering at the hands of alcoholics like herself. Financial contributions are done by the members of the group itself which keep it running. Meetings are available to assist family members and friends of alcoholics adjust and better serve their loved ones, even if their loved ones have not recovered.
To assist members by having them understand they aren't alone in their struggle, is the principal target of Al-Anon.
Alcoholism Is A Family Illness
Since it has a deleterious influence on both the drinker and those around them, Al-anon treats the disease of alcoholism as a family illness. Important to the alcoholic's recovery is the friend and family support system.
Many family members are known to blame themselves for the drinking problem of their loved one, and in many cases do not understand why the recovery of their loved one is a priority. Meetings deal with these issues and make members understand that alcoholism is a family illness.
Alateen Is Al-Anon For Teenagers
Al-Anon is also home for a group which is identified as Alateen and is catering to youngsters that are affected by alcoholism within their family.
Teens get to associate with each other and share experiences of how alcoholism has affected them.
Why Join An Al-Anon Group
The people in the group are struggling like you or are going through what you are experiencing as a victim of alcoholism. The best part about this program is that you can all relate with the same issue. With this program, you get to share experiences with people who have faced situations similar to yours. There are Al-Anon meetings available all across our country. Contact us on 0800 772 3971 for assistance in locating a group near you.
What You Can Expect From A Meeting
Al-Anon gatherings are friends and family members of alcoholic addicts. If you are worried about somebody's heavy drinking or if the drunkard's lifestyle somehow affects your life , Al-Anon will help you.
Since they are sure what will happen, some people don't feel free to go to the first meeting. Certain things to remember when considering attending a meeting:
Al-Anon is an anonymous group, and this can be considered as extremely important
Whether personally or through a family member, everyone in each meeting has been impacted by alcoholism
No one is subject to talk about or discuss their issue, but it is encouraged
Meetings Offered Can Vary
Some could be more productive for you than the others.
Al-Anon is not an organization which is based on any religion
Al-Anon meetings follow the 12 Step program
Al-Anon meetings are carried out under a slogan that encourages all attendees to "take only what they like, leaving the rest." The members get to go about their own personal experiences.
Every meeting begins with the reading of Al-Anon's twelve-step program. These 12 steps have been adapted from a similar program which is also implemented by Alcoholics Anonymous. There is a person to hold your hand as you go through the different stages of help. The 12 Steps are as follows:
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
Members learn to accept alcoholism as a disease they cannot control in others.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Pretty often members try to change or control their significant others and drive themselves to the verge.
After they admit they are powerless, they learn how to accept that they can be helped to regain their sanity.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.
Learning to let go is a primary step in the program and acceptance.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Identifying that your life is being affected by alcoholism is one way of getting the best help.
A list of how they may have offended themselves or their loved ones (such as with threats) is made by attendees.
Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrong doings.
This is an examination of every item within the moral inventory of the member and will allow them to delve into every problem.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
This is a very important step, as it is the complete acceptance of the process of recovery supported by a Higher Power.
calmly begged Him to remove our drawbacks.
In this stage, the members get to assess how their presence or activities could have affected the addicts negatively.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Usually, making up for the wrongs done begins with oneself.
Sometimes it not always your fault a person is addicted.
Personal acceptance and pardoning is also a way to getting help.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Working on the steps of recovery and help after forgiving yourself is the next step.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Going through the 12 steps is a process which will take time.
Even if the members have already completed their inventory, missteps are normal.
Step 10 provides a recognition that this is an ongoing process.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
This is a personal, spiritual step that involves acceptance and comfort amongst the anxiety of recovery.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
This stage appreciates the fact that the process is long and doesnt end after a while.
It is a support group and members get to assist other members get through the whole process.
What Is Higher Power
Although Al-Anon's program is not a religious one, members do experience insights into higher power. However, the notion of "higher power" can be interpreted depending on one's personal beliefs. All religions are well represented and no one is forced to change to another religion.